I always say—healing isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about coming home to the parts of you that were left behind.

For me, that begins with the inner child.

She’s the version of you that still remembers what it felt like to be overlooked, to be too much or not enough, to feel unsafe in your softness. She shows up in your triggers, your fears, your self-doubt… and in your deepest longing for love. And most of us, whether we realize it or not, are still making adult decisions from a place of childhood pain.

I’ve seen this in my clients, and I’ve seen it in myself.

There were days I was showing up for everyone but her—the younger me. The little girl who needed to be seen, heard, and told she was lovable just as she was. The more I ignored her, the louder she became. Through anxiety, perfectionism, burnout… sound familiar?

But the truth is: your inner child doesn’t need you to fix her. She needs you to feel her. To sit with her. To ask her what she needs today.

In session, inner child healing can look like:

💬 Talking directly to your younger self

💌 Writing letters to the version of you that was hurt

🌿 Using guided visualization to reconnect with old memories

🧸 Even holding a childhood photo and simply saying, “I’m here now.”

It’s not about reliving trauma—it’s about restoring trust. You can be the adult she needed. You can reparent yourself with gentleness and grace. And yes, it’s okay if it makes you cry.

Healing your inner child is an act of radical self-love. It’s how you stop the cycle, how you soften the fear, how you finally feel safe in your own body again.

You don’t have to do it alone.

At Self-Love Harbor, I hold space for that little you to come forward—slowly, safely, and when you’re ready. And together, we begin the beautiful work of bringing her home.

Until next time,

With love, always—

Stella